New research finds that marital tension between mom and dad can harm each parent’s bond with their children.
Southern Methodist University (SMU) researchers discovered dads, in particular, let conflict adversely impact relationships with children, while moms compartmentalize marital conflict after first day.
Investigators found that children suffer consequences, too, when mom and dad argue or have tension in their relationship.
Dads, in particular, let the negative emotions and tension from their marriage spill over and harm the bond they have with their child, says a new study’s lead author, psychologist Chrystyna D. Kouros.
“The findings drive home the conclusion that the quality of a marriage is closely tied to each parent’s bond with their child,” Kouros said.
The findings are based on data provided by 203 families, where family members completed daily diary entries for 15 days.
Moms and dads rated the quality of their marriage and their relationship with their child at the end of each day.
The authors found that when parents reported tension and conflict in their marriage, simultaneously that day’s interactions with their child were peppered with tension and conflict.
Even so, distinct differences also were identified in moms and dads.
“In fact, in that situation, moms appeared to compensate for their marital tension,” Kouros said.
“Poor marital quality actually predicted an improvement in the relationship between the mom and the child. So, the first day’s adverse spillover is short-lived for moms.”
That was not the case for dads, the researchers found.
“In families where the mom was showing signs of depression, dads on the other hand let the marital tension spill over, with the result being poorer interactions with their child, even on the next day,” she said.
“Marriage quality affects the whole family,” said Kouros, an assistant professor in SMU’s Department of Psychology.
“We see from the findings that the marriage is a hub relationship for the family,” she said.
“The quality of that relationship spills over into each parent’s interactions with the child. So if mom and dad are fighting, it will show up initially — and in some cases on the second day — in a poorer quality relationship with their kids.”
The study, “Spillover between marital quality and parent-child relationship quality: Parental depressive symptoms as moderators,” is published in the Journal of Family Psychology.
This article first appeared on PsychCentral on 6 August 2014.